A massage, meditation, taking a fitness class, or fine-tuning what we eat are all examples of what most people think of self-care. You are right! These are examples of self-care, perks I like to call them. Things to look forward to, ways of releasing stress. All are important and necessary but sometimes we need to look deeper into what is causing the stress or unhappiness. For example, if you know that you need to stop drinking too much and eating fast food, you need to think about the people you are surrounding yourself with. If you are in a toxic relationship or job that is eating you away inside, removing yourself from the situation is much easier said than done. Life is full of bumps in the road, pushing us to make decisions that affect our daily lives. Happiness is something we all want, but achieving it can be very difficult. As adults we are intwined with our lives and our surroundings , creating new habits takes courage and practice. Start identifying what it is in your life that is causing your glass to be half empty ,write it down! Write down what you want to change in your life , chances are you already know what you have to do to truly care for yourself. Try to think of the bump as an opportunity for you to make necessary change to grow as a person and to inspire others who may be in a similar situation. I write this post from personal experience. Letting fear and doubt stand in the way of my self-care was a way of life for me for many years. When I finally took the steps necessary to move forward in my life I realized I was grateful for the challenge because I grew stronger. Change is never easy. I believe that it is a part of life that is constantly shaping us to be wiser, stronger, more confident human beings. I am writing this today because I want to send a message of hope and comfort to anyone needing a push. You can do it, just keep pushing forward and take everything life throws at you as a daily lesson on becoming all you were meant to be.